A couple weeks ago, I wrote an article (which you can read here) on the difference between being a world changer and just being opinionated. Essentially, my point is that I am an incredibly opinionated person, but I have found that no message will be heard, received, or valued if it isn’t pure in motive and rooted in love.
After writing this article, I received an anonymous message from a “Christian” woman who told me that based on my “past” and the fact that my marriage ended last year, I would never be a world changer. This is where if you haven’t read the article, you should. Because she is basically who I wrote it for.
While fighting back tears and triggered pain, I wondered if she even read the article, but if you don’t know what you’re talking about, it’s probably best to just, well, not. We live in an imperfect world where not everything is in our control or goes according to plan. Everyone…EVERY ONE is on this planet, in the midst of personal wars, fighting unique battles daily that we don’t see. We don’t have all of the details, and we don’t have to. We can, though, choose love and kindness…because I think that’s what hurting people on the battleground probably need the most.
Secondly, and this is where I get fired up…that there are “Christians” who refuse to believe in redemption. While versions differ, I think we’re all reading the same bible. So, here’s what mine says:
“In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace.”
“Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.”
“He sent redemption to his people; he has commanded his covenant forever. Holy and awesome is his name!”
“I have blotted out your transgressions like a cloud and your sins like mist; return to me, for I have redeemed you.”
The fact that there are “Christians” who don’t have the slightest idea of grace baffles me. So, I’m going to extend some today.
To the human who said I’ll never change the world:
Yes, your words stung. For a moment, brief as it was, my feelings were hurt. But the months I spent in counseling dealing with my personal pains (devastating end of marriage included) taught me to respond and not react…to create peace and purpose from the pain. So, while you may have touched on what once was fragile, triggering one of my deepest wounds, the truth my God says about me healed it instantly.
I believe in crazy love. I believe in radical redemption. I believe that purpose comes from pain. I believe that while the evil in this world burns many precious things to the ground, beauty will arise from the ashes if we allow it. I believe that people, all of us, me and you, can be made new. We can change. Learn. Heal. Process. Grow. We were designed to do this.
Thank you for proving my point. Thank you so much for affirming my need to be a light in this dark world.
Thank you for challenging me, for being the violent wind that made my flame burn hotter…only helping to bring glory from the ashes of pain. My personal mission is brighter now, and will catch so much more on fire.
Please. Keep sending messages like that. You are fueling my message and I’m grateful for you. You reminded me of how important and hugely significant it is to keep choosing love. And I love you anyway. I don’t mean that in the “Christian culture” way. I mean it in the dead serious, wholly authentic, honest, broken, completely human way. My heart breaks for you, because I know that your message really wasn’t about me. Perhaps you’ve struggled with lies and pain in your own life. Perhaps my blog article was a trigger that made you feel convicted or uncomfortable. I understand that completely. And I want you to know that your discomfort is okay, because God didn’t call us to a life of comfort zones. He called us to radical love and grace, which may mean choices and a lifestyle that no one else understands.
I don’t want, need, or ever expect an apology from you. I am not seeking validation from you or hoping for you to agree with me. But I want you to know that I think I understand where your message came from, and I forgive you for the harsh, hateful, and cutting words you chose to direct at me. Today, I let them go. You, my anonymous human friend, are receiving grace from me. Truly.
I hope that today you love yourself and others more…deeper…on a level you never even thought possible. Because I can promise you, that’s what God intended. It’s what He feels for you. And regardless of what you thought of my article, I still believe in you. You can still be a world changer. You are capable of growing, healing, and choosing light.
“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.”