The sun has finally gone to bed, much like my fiancé, as he recently left our new home to go back to his place. The moonlight has prepared lovely ambiance for me as I glance out my window, washing the last of a couple dishes in the kitchen.
There really is no place like home, but this warm, fuzzy feeling doesn’t come without it’s trials and effort. I am coming up on week #2 in the new home that will soon be my first home with my husband-to-be. It has been my biggest mission to make this place feel like home…to be a place of sacred refuge for Nathan…and to be somewhere we can escape to and want to come home to no matter what life brings our way.
It has been so much fun to decorate our home so far, dreaming about our life together coming up in the very near future. Tonight, Nathan even surprised me with a beautiful votive candle wall sconce, as well as hanging up some of our pictures. My heart grew giddy tonight, as I realized that Nathan also prioritizes making our home a place of loveliness, beauty, and peace.
Sometimes, in the craziness of Los Angeles, it can be quite difficult to feel at peace. However, no matter how hectic life may become, it is a priority and responsibility that we should all subdue our homes and cultivate a place of beauty that can serve as our own safe haven.
Our home should be a place where my superhero is nurtured and refueled before he goes back to the battle field. A place where we are able to rest and fill our souls so that we may fill the souls of others.
Home should be a place that fosters the hearts that enter through the front door, and that tends to the needs of each and every person who resides within the walls of this very important place.
So much of our actions and thoughts are attitude driven. Each time I enter our new home, I try to remind myself of Luke 10:5.
“Whatever house you enter, first say, ‘Peace be to this house!’ “
Home can mean so many things to so many different people. Unfortunately, home can look like:
And many other negative, soul-draining circumstances.
Nathan and I made the decision to not put a TV in our bedroom, just to have a place of refuge and relaxation that won’t cause distraction or a negative, unhealthy escape. Not that entertainment is wrong, because it isn’t, but for two writers who often work from home like us, we need home to be a place that brings life and doesn’t drain life.
Isaiah 32:18 is exactly what I want home to feel like for my future husband and I:
“My people will abide in a peaceful habitation, in secure dwellings, and in quiet resting places.”
Peace is intentional. And creating a peaceful atmosphere at home must be intentional as well. Sacred areas don’t happen by accident.
Consider trying some of the following tips in your home, and remember that each of our homes will be unique. 🙂
1. Just as Isaiah 32:18 says, it is important to dwell in a quiet place. Home should be a place of laughter and fun noise, but it is crucial that your home is a place where you can rest as well. Try turning on relaxing, quiet, calming music in the morning and evenings to start and end each day with peace rather than chaos.
2. Home should be a safe place. Communication has a lot to do with this. If you live with a room mate, family member, or husband, always be sure to speak clearly about your thoughts and feelings and remain on the same page. That being said, learning to discern when it is and isn’t a good time to talk or bring up things such as bills, errands, and tasks is important to making home a safe and happy place for them. Certain things should be obvious, but we are all human: for home to feel safe, your communication should never involve yelling, rude comments, name calling, or any words that may cut the other person down. Let your words build your loved ones and build your home.
3. Ambiance is everything. You don’t need a big budget or a big home to create a peaceful atmosphere. I love the wall sconce Nathan got us because candles work wonders. Simply lighting some candles (lavender is a very calming scent for the home and is good for the mind), listening to relaxing music, and keeping your space tidy will ensure that home is a refuge and not a burden. When I let my home get messy, I get overwhelmed. Just take an hour a week (or sometimes I just do a little 10 minute tidy each day) and keep your home looking beautiful and relaxing so that you will enjoy it. Looking at piles of dishes and laundry just remind us of work. Home should be peaceful, so try not to procrastinate too much on the cleaning (I’ve learned this one from experience!).
What works for some won’t work for others. Just get creative, be inspired, and make your home peaceful.