A Wise Woman Builds Her Home {And why being a Proverbs 31 woman doesn’t have to be boring.}


“By wisdom a house is built, by understanding it is established; And by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.”
-Proverbs 24:3-4

It is currently day #3 that I have lived in the new place that is soon to be my first home with my husband. I have always loved decorating, cooking, and bringing life into any place I’ve lived. However, there is something unique about this particular move. I’ve been quicker than ever about unpacking and organizing…filled with joy at the thought of how I can fill it with beauty…and overcome with so many ideas about how to make memories with this man. This is not just an apartment, it’s a home I will share with the man God gave me.

We still have a lot of progress to go, but it has been so much fun piecing things together with Nathan…dreaming about our life together.


Since he proposed 8 months ago, I have been studying and researching what it means to be a great wife {biblically}.

“The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands.”
-Proverbs 14:1

As I begin to decorate, cook, or bring anything into our home, I continue to ask myself if I am building our home. Are my words, actions, thoughts, and motives building a home for my husband and I, or are they destructive, selfish, and tearing apart God’s design?

As women, and as wives, we have a huge responsibility from God. We are powerful, and we have the ability to bring life, beauty, and build a home that flourishes and a husband who is nurtured, or we have the power to destroy all of it with our own hands and our own words.

During certain moments of the move, and hectic hours of stress, I found my heart hardening with anxiety. I wasn’t honoring God or Nathan in those moments, and I realized how easy it is for me to tear down the home we are building together. As women, we must be aware of our words and actions and how much they matter. We must use self control to be women of grace, because how we feel, think, and act will greatly impact those closest to us.

I’m not from the 50s, and I wouldn’t consider myself boring or “old fashioned.” I’m still a working girl, following my dreams, acting, writing, modeling, and having fun girls nights. God’s design for women wasn’t for us to be bored, but to be fulfilled.

Proverbs 31:27 says that a godly wife looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.”

Many women become unsatisfied, bored, and overwhelmed with a mundane life based on pressures that God never placed on us. Being a Proverbs 31 woman or a godly wife doesn’t mean sitting around at home all day. It’s a task, a mission, a goal to be a life giver and to manage the home in which so many memories will be made.


Being the women God designed us to be is beautiful. We aren’t robots, and we won’t be clones of Martha Stewart. Being a Proverbs 31 woman does NOT mean you will somehow sleep in separate beds like in “I Love Lucy.” Embracing the tasks God has entrusted us to enables us to live the abundant life…to bring beauty…to be loved…to have fun…to laugh…to smile…and to live a life of joy.


2 thoughts on “A Wise Woman Builds Her Home {And why being a Proverbs 31 woman doesn’t have to be boring.}

  1. Your new first home looks lovely. You have good taste and decorating ideas just like your momma. Congratulations on your new home and your upcoming marriage. So very exciting. I can’t wait to see some pictures of your wedding. Don’t know the date, but I know it must be soon.

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