My life has been filled with some truly wonderful times, and some extremely difficult trials (as Ecclesiastes 3 says, there is a season for everything). While I have been blessed with a wonderful and supportive family who love me, I definitely had my fair share of times when I felt quite alone and misunderstood in the world. Living in Los Angeles alone didn’t just make me feel like a small fish in a big pond at first…it made me feel like a mere speck, a microscopic piece of dirt or dust floating by at times in a massive ocean.
For a couple of years, many lonely nights were spent eating ramen noodles with my chihuahua. Others were filled with tears hitting the floor. Finding my true identity in Christ was absolutely life changing, because I finally realized that I wasn’t alone or forgotten.
While my relationship with Jesus is amazing, I know that God must love me a whole extra lot, because He gave me a physical human being in my life to stand by my side forever. God gave me Nathan, my fiance. Tonight at our pre-marital group at church, one of the leaders was talking about how amazing it is to be married, because it’s not that life will always be easy, but you will never have to do it alone again.
That really struck me in such a deep place in my soul, because while I have always been independent and now enjoy being an introverted homebody, I get to experience all of life with my best friend…forever. Life won’t always be easy and simple…marriage doesn’t solve all issues…my past hurts won’t disappear…but I won’t have to go through these hurts, pains, struggles, or battles alone anymore.
Nathan and I are blessed to have each other, and are blessed to be doing well, but we certainly aren’t rich or living the “high life.” However, I’ve come to realize that if I’m going to be broke, if there are going to be seasons where all I can afford is ramen, if I’m going to be on a budget anyway, how much more fun is it to just do life together?
In the same way, my joys are not as joyful when there is no one to experience them with.
If I’m going to travel, I want to have a travel buddy.
If I book a big job, I want to tell someone.
If I hear good news, I want someone to celebrate with.
My fiance introduced me a while back to a movie called “Into The Wild.” The film is a true story about a young man who decides to leave all things behind…no friends, no money, no family. He goes out into the wild, traveling on his own. At the end of the movie, right before he dies, he writes:
“Happiness is only real when shared.”
I have something really amazing and relieving to tell you: God doesn’t expect you to do life alone! That’s right-it’s true! That’s why He created us…to be together!
“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” -Proverbs 27:17
“For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” -Matthew 18:20
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil.” -Ecclesiastes 4:9
“And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another.” -Hebrews 10:24
Doing life together isn’t just for couples…it’s for everyone! This is applicable to each and every one of us. My girl friends and mentors have changed my life. Talk to friends, and never think that your situation is unique or too crazy for someone to understand! Most importantly-don’t forget to do life with God. We have such a gift by the Holy Spirit in us…because we don’t have a God who wants to sit back and watch from a distance…He is here to live with us through every changing season.
Share your joys, pains, happiness, hurts, problems, struggles, praises, good news, and bad news with the people around you…because it is only real when shared! I truly couldn’t be more blessed & grateful for the people in my life who fill me up with an abundance of joy.