Famine of Friendship

Yesterday, my blog post talked a bit about how frustrating it was to spend the majority of my life without close girlfriends or kindred spirits. I spent a lot of time feeling very alone, and wondering if this isolation would ever change. Luckily, my fiance loves me and would watch romantic comedies with me, but it just wasn’t quite the same as having a gal pal.

My room mate and I had our first connect group tonight that we are leading together (but I’ll get to that later). We are studying “Jesus The One And Only” by Beth Moore. Each weekly session has a video teaching from Beth Moore, and while this week was only the introduction, it completely consumed us with some serious food for thought.

She talked a lot about famine, and how God so often uses famine in our lives to help us work up an appetite for His word. What kind of famine has God provoked in you to give you a hunger for what you truly need?

For me, I spent the majority of my life with a famine of friends. True, authentic, close, godly friendships are hard to come by…and I remember the frustration I felt when I had no one to call, no one to turn to. The amazing thing about God is that He can take our famine, our brokenness, and what we are lacking to make something beautiful happen.

Back in the day, I used to throw myself quite the pity party.
“Why isn’t anyone calling me?”
“Why isn’t anyone inviting me over?”
“Why am I all alone?”
“Why won’t God just magically put friends in my path?”

Th pity party had to stop. It was time for me to be intentional, step it up, and create my own opportunities for relationship. I decided to lead a connect group through our church exactly this time last fall. I didn’t know any of the girls, I lived in a tiny studio apartment, and at the beginning, I was more nervous than you could possibly imagine. But guess what?…

The famine of friendship is what cultivates bible study leaders.

God used my hunger for friendship and inspired me to become a leader, a cultivator of relationships, and someone who appreciated my friendships so very much. In the midst of leading my group last year, there was this girl named Maddy who attended. She was always on fire for God, full of life, and talked to me with such sincerity. 

Maddy and I started getting coffee together while I was leading this group…and I’ll never forget our first coffee date. God had filled my appetite abundantly for something my soul always craved…a true friend. We would meet for coffee every week, and talk about everything under the sun (literally: God, the bible, boys, shaving our legs, haircuts, food, you name it!). She is my true kindred spirit who I can laugh with, shop with, drink tea with, and grow with. 

Maddy is now my room mate, best friend, sister, one of my maids of honor, and we are currently leading a connect group together for the first time. We met exactly one year ago today (happy anniversary to our friendship), and I can’t even fully comprehend what God has done through our great relationship in this one year. She is the biggest answer to prayer, a huge blessing, and an end to a famine.

Perhaps you are going through a famine in your life right now. Lacking something so deeply that it hurts. I encourage you to grow closer and closer to God, and stay so consumed in His word…because the hunger He is developing in you will be an answer to a prayer.


3 thoughts on “Famine of Friendship

  1. I spent most of my high school years without close girlfriends as well! When I finally thought I had made a BFF she ended up ditching me and it was the most painful thing I’ve ever had to go through. I love your perspective though! I’m starting to make some good friendships in college, and I hope that someday I will have a close groups of Godly girlfriends. 🙂

  2. I came here from I take Joy, and though I am probably ten years older than you, this is my situation too. If it weren’t for my sisters I don’t know what I would do, but I still crave a friendship so much. Homeschooling two of my children, and taking care of baby and toddler make it even tougher to find friends. But it definitely is a famine that makes me seek God.

    1. Jen,
      Thank you so much for taking the time to read and relate. I will be praying that God brings amazing friends into your life! Keep up the incredible faithfulness. I’m amazed by mamas like you and absolutely inspired.

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