Write your own story.


As an early twenties girl, I have found that usually when we are searching for who we want to be, we tend to model after who we are looking at or comparing ourselves to. Facebook doesn’t help with these unhealthy comparisons, as we spend hours scrolling through various status updates that we are longing to be true in our own lives.

We create a self talk in our minds. I don’t know about you, but it’s never very healthy for me when I allow my brain to go wild, spinning with thoughts uncontrollably, not staying true to myself and focusing on my own life.

“She got a job promotion?”…
“I know they make more money than I do”…
“My friend’s cousin has her masters degree already”…
“That girl is already married”…
“She is always traveling across the country in amazing places”…
“Her outfit is better than mine”…
“I haven’t accomplished nearly as much as her”…

When you look in the mirror, are you striving to be more like Christ, or more like your acquaintances on Facebook? This unhealthy, negative self talk that is filled with comparisons does nothing positive for us as lovely young women.

I used to compare myself to every girl. Every girl who was married, every girl who had an acting role, every girl who got better grades than me, every girl who made more money than me, every girl who made less mistakes than me, and so on and so forth forever.

For most of my life, I didn’t know that grace applied to me, nor did I believe that God had a plan for my future. Now, the only person I compare myself to is who I was yesterday. You don’t need to live up to anyone else’s expectations, or anyone else’s reality. You are unique and specifically made by God for an entirely different purpose.

If you are in your 20s, looking at your life, feeling discontent and longing for someone else’s outcome, I can promise you that what God has in store for you is far beyond what you can imagine. Learning to have patience, faith, and trust in God is no easy task, but it is crucial in the process of growth.

When you go onto Facebook today, prepared to type your status update, ignore whatever else you’ve read. You have no one to impress, no one to live up to, and no one to “one up.” Be yourself. Love who you are. You know that girl that you secretly Facebook stalk? Her life isn’t perfect, either. She is writing her story. But who is writing yours?

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