“The whole purpose of places like Starbucks is for people with no decision-making ability whatsoever to make six decisions just to buy one cup of coffee. Short, tall, light, dark, caf, decaf, low-fat, non-fat, etc. So people who don’t know what they’re doing or who on earth they are can, for only $2.95, get not just a cup of coffee but an absolutely defining sense of self: Tall. Decaf. Cappuccino.” – You’ve Got Mail
As I sip a hot cup of coffee this morning, feeling the Colorado breeze in my hair, my mind ponders the whole idea of the “identity crisis.” We are in a fast paced generation of bustling people who are on the pursuit of definition. My soul has been at ease the past few days as I’ve been able to find peace and quiet. In Los Angeles, my young mind can sometimes feel louder than a jack hammer. In the midst of all the noise, are we losing sight of who we are?
Often times, we desire this sense of self so deeply, so badly, that we let almost anything define us before we tune into our souls. We don’t live in a culture that values beauty and depth…so are we dumbing down our souls to fit the mold of the world we live in?
If your soul were a name tag, what would it say?
Hello, my name is tall chai latte.
Hello, my name is iPhone 3.
Hello, my name is Facebook addict.
These silly, obsolete, culture driven elements of life should not be who we are. What lights a fire in your soul? What books make you dream? What ideals give you purpose? What is filling your soul this week?
Before we can answer the question of what fills our souls, we must know how to define ourselves for who we truly are (not just our Starbucks drink order). Psalm 139:13-16 says:
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
You are beautiful. You have been created from depth. My question for you is simple: does your soul reflect the beauty, wonder, depth, and intricate detail that God uniquely created you with?
Each Monday is an opportunity for us to start our week in an incredible way. Here are 3 simple tips for you to fill your soul with depth, beauty, and joy this week:
1. Read this week. (The 4 i’s)
If we want to be women of inspiration, ideals, intellect, and intelligence (the 4 i’s), we need to read. Fill your mind with great stories. Set aside time each day to be in God’s word. I also recommend you read a book this week that can teach you something (I suggest anything by CS Lewis).
2. Cultivate beauty in your home.
Even if the size of your apartment feels as tiny as a clown car, cultivate beauty. Light candles, pick flowers, and make your home a place of beauty. Your home should reflect your soul. Fill it with color, good books, and things that bring you memories of joy.
3. Quiet time.
In this busy world, I tend to lose track of my priorities when I never get any quiet time. Even if your life is extremely full, schedule daily quiet time. Wake up early if you need to in order to have that peace and quiet with God before your day starts. An even bigger challenge, if you’re up for it, is to go on a walk this week. Spending time in nature (even in LA) reflects God’s creation and fills my soul with wonder.
Enjoy this week, and remember to give your soul the depth, beauty, and wonder that it truly deserves.
***Up for an extra challenge? Go above and beyond this week and inspire and encourage other young women in your life by sharing the 4 i’s.