Strength. Ability. Power.
As young women in this world and generation, it feels nice when we’re able to “prove” ourselves. Years ago, women fought for rights. The power to vote and have equal opportunity in the workplace.
Our generation still craves the chance to feel like wonder women. That isn’t a bad thing. However, we can’t waltz around this crazy world believing that we can do life alone.
I was raised by a very strong mother, and she raised a very strong young woman. Aside from my natural Taurus stubbornness, I’ve just always wanted so badly to be strong and capable of doing everything on my own. I hate asking for help…I loath accepting help most of the time. Even when my boss of over a year tries to purchase my dinner while I’m babysitting, I resist. I get this strange feeling of guilt in the pit of my stomach…I feel that it’s unnatural to have people help me…sometimes even uncomfortable.
What I’ve come to realize is that no matter how badly I want to be wonderwoman, none of us can do life alone successfully. I have put this strange expectation on myself. It’s not biblical, and God would never ask me to do life in solitude. Quite the opposite, actually.
God has a way of proving me wrong. He has placed me in the midst of some serious discomfort and some very impossible situations. Well, situations that would be impossible to do alone.
If you’ve ever had car trouble, especially in LA, you know how crippling it can be. It’s an instant panic. How do I get to work? How do I get home? How will I get my shopping done?
Each time I’ve had car problems, as much as it pains me, I realize there’s nothing I can do alone to solve the problem. My boyfriend has rescued me on numerous occasions. He has even driven me to work and taken me to get my errands done. Without his help, I’d just be stranded.
A couple weeks ago, I moved into my new apartment. I have accumulated a lot of stuff in the 4 years I’ve lived in LA. My mom hired movers for me to help and take the stress off my shoulders.
30 minutes prior to my move, the movers called and had to cancel. This could have been a disaster. I could have panicked. But my friends gathered together and showed me the true meaning of friendship. They spent all day going up and down flights of stairs to help me get moved and settled. Alone, I couldn’t have done it at all.
I love to bake. A couple days after moving in with my best friend and new roomie, I decided I would wake up and bake fresh muffins! My mind went wild. We’d eat them…have coffee on the patio…catch up…pray…it would be perfect. There was only one, tiny, little problem with my “perfect” plan.
As soon as I turned on the oven, the smoke detector went off. It was so sensitive…and so loud. The muffins couldn’t bake…and I couldn’t surprise my new roomie…but instead, she made me breakfast.
Life doesn’t always go as planned. It certainly doesn’t always turn out the way we think, or even hope it will. But God has given us a beautiful way to make it through life’s obstacles…
Fellowship. Family. Friends.
Ecclesiastes says it best…
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:
If either of them falls down, the other can help them up.
But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”
Life isn’t always flawless. I fall on a very regular basis. We can’t plan or know in advance when obstacles will appear in front of us and change the course of our day. But I had to learn that when I fall, I will only stay down if I remain alone. However, through having people around me who love me, every time I fall…every time I think a circumstance is hopeless…each time I don’t know how I’ll make it out…God has placed someone in my life to help me stand back to my feet on solid ground.
It doesn’t take your strength away to have help. Even superheroes have sidekicks 😉
It doesn’t make you any less powerful to have friends. In fact, having a support system, a cord of three strands (Ecclesiastes 4:12), we are a force to be reckoned with.
You can be strong.
You can be powerful.
You can be able.
But eventually, you will fall. We all do. We’re human. Life happens. But you won’t lose yourself if you have people around you to remind you of who you are.