Father’s day is this Sunday (for all of you who need a reminder). This holiday always gives me mixed emotions. I sometimes wonder how I got so lucky. On paper, I should have ended up with fear of abandonment & daddy issues. Having a biological father who never really gave me anything but his genes, I could have ended up terrified of men. But God has given me so many angels in my life. I’m not only thankful for my real dad (who I refuse to call a stepfather), but I also have a few other amazing men in my life who remind me of my worth.
This amazing guy right here is my boyfriend. Not only that, but he is my best friend. We are ridiculous and silly together, but I’m still able to talk to him about anything. The reason I’m so thankful for the relationship I have with Nathan is that it has shown me my worth. So many girls don’t feel loved, therefore they don’t feel worthy. So they spend all their time trying to prove something or be something else. Nathan knows that with me, what you see is what you get. He knows I’m not perfect, but he loves and accepts me for me. He respects me in a way that I never thought a boyfriend could…and it makes me wonder why so many girls settle for guys who don’t treat them like princesses. God gave me Nathan because he wanted me to know that I am worthy and deserve the right kind of love. I didn’t always know that.
Girls: if you’re dating someone who isn’t respecting you and doesn’t want what’s best for YOU, run for the hills.
Since I was born, my brother has always done his best to protect me, respect me, and take good care of me. I’m so blessed to have this guy as my brother & friend. He always reminded me that I’m worthy and deserve the best. Having my brother in my life definitely cancelled out any possibility of having “daddy issues.” I never felt alone because I had him. I thank God for that everyday.
This is my Papa. He is one of the most amazing men I’ve ever had the privilege to know. He passed away years ago, but the impact he made on my life will stay with me forever. He always called me “little lady.” Even when I was a tiny little girl, he wanted me to know that I was a lady and deserved to be treated like one.
This is my dad. Although we aren’t blood related, you’d never know. We have SO much in common. We share a love of chocolate, we have the same sense of humor, and we even have the same birthday. Growing up, kids would tell me I looked like my dad. I didn’t correct them or tell them we weren’t blood related, because I liked to think that I took after him. I can’t ever complain or act like I have any sort of “daddy issue” because of this guy. If anything, my only daddy issue was being loved too much. God brought me my dad to fill the void that was in my heart. And because of him, I’ve never been fatherless.
I don’t have a picture with Jesus (surprise, surprise), but if it weren’t for my relationship with him, I would be a completely different girl. I’m so blessed to have such an unconditional love, regardless of the million flaws that encompass me.
This father’s day, no matter what your relationship is like with your birth father, try to be thankful for whatever great men you have in your life. I have been extremely blessed with so many incredible men who have shown me my worth as a young lady in this world.
Happy Father’s Day!